The Executive / Career Coach for High Achieving Leaders and Pivotal
Leadership Teams . . .
Coaching you to articulate your unique value, stand out IN a crowd,
and create sustainable career success!
Conversations and strategies about how to stand out IN a crowd and create sustainable success while making a difference through
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A Message from Gerrie
In preparing for this month’s message about informal
mentoring, I decided to implement my own mentoring initiative, and took
into account what I hear from others about why they DON’T initiate
mentoring conversations . . . not sure who to contact, I’m too busy and
have major deadlines to meet, I don’t know what to say …
Do any of these sound familiar?
As it turns out, it was an inspiring journey as I stretched myself. I’ve
made connections on a business AND personal level with over 5 new people
who I had thought would be out of reach.
The interesting insight from my experience is that I didn’t initiate a
contact for the sole purpose of initiating a mentoring conversation, but
they offered help and assistance spontaneously. Our conversation evolved
into a mentoring conversation in response to a few questions that I
asked about how they handled specific situations.
They also extended an invitation that would further our relationship and
offered a few personal news bytes that brought me even closer in their
My experience reflected some of the rules that are changing for
mentoring relationships. Although many leaders aren’t able to commit to
a ‘formal’ mentoring relationship because of the time commitment, they
find informal mentoring very rewarding.
A mentoring / mentee relationship has shifted from the mentor choosing
the ‘protégé to the protégé now seeking out the mentor. What used to be
a one-sided perspective in which the mentor advised the protégé, the
mentor / mentee relationship often evolves into a reciprocal
relationship, a much richer experience for both.
Are you ready to stretch your thinking even more about mentoring? Read
our Feature Article, “What’s the magic number
Have fun with your mentoring conversations.
The Leadership Strategist to help leaders
stand out IN a crowd . . .
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Unique Genius Virtual Café: Upcoming Events
Our Unique Genius Virtual Café Event is scheduled on the second Tuesday of each month from 12:00Noon – 12:55pm to help you create sustainable success and stand out IN a crowd for your unique, credible expertise.
- October 19, 2010: JoJami Tyler. Expert
in ‘Connecting Women to Their Ultimate Image’. (NOTE: This is the
3rd Tuesday, a change from our usual 2nd Tuesday.)
We’re going to have fun discussing ‘Making Your Style
a Business Tool’.
- November 9, 2010: Selena Rezvani.
Recognized author, speaker, and consultant on women and
leadership, and founder / president of NextGenWomen, LLC. Author of
“The Next Generation of Women Leaders: What You Need to Lead but
Won’t Learn in Business School” Publisher: ABC-CLIO, LLC, 2010
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My heartfelt thanks to so many of you who completed the
I’ll be providing short bytes about the survey results over the next few
months, so you connect with the identified trends and issues, and hear what
other leaders are saying …
Here’s one short byte … the second portion of this will be featured in our
The Unique Genius market research study shows that a leader’s success in their
career and leadership role depends on 7 high priority strategies . . . here are
3 of the 7:
- Embrace the value of self-awareness and self-management,
cornerstones of emotional and social intelligence.
- Allocate time for strategic planning to achieve greater
clarity and productivity, focusing on the highest priority goals and
minimizing distractions from lower return activities.
- Commit to self-leadership and personal development.
(Watch for the other 4 in our October edition!)
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to inspire and motivate their leaders! Watch for upcoming events in
“Stand Out IN a
Crowd with Your Unique Promise of Value That Is Relevant and Memorable”
||Greater Philadelphia Senior Executive Group – CIO
Aldo Lamberti, Cherry Hill NJ
||Friday, Dec 3 – 11:30am – 2:00pm
||Open to GPSEG Sub-group or Guests who are sponsored
by an existing member of the roundtable or obtain
pre-approval from the chair or co-chair.
“Your Unique Credibility Factor
. . . the Secret to Standing Out as a High Impact, Strategic Leader”
Greater Pottstown Chapter, Society for Human Resource Management (SHRM)
Brookside Country Club, Pottstown PA
Thursday, Jan 27, 2011 – 12:00 Noon ET
Watch here for registration link later this year.
To learn more about Gerrie’s speaking and make a referral to
your organization, click on link:
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What’s the magic number of greatness?
You’ve heard of the book, Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell, right? |
According to Malcolm, “10,000 hours is the magic number of greatness”,
i.e., it takes 10,000 hours to become an expert at anything.
In his book, he references a number of studies that link hours of
practice with performance. In a study in the 1990s, the researchers
found that a musician’s performance was closely aligned with the number
of hours of accumulated practice. The 10,000 hours came up in other
studies related to athletes, writers, and chess players …
It starts with the question, what do you WANT to excel in? In his
book, Instant Wealth, Chris Howard describes how Beyonce Knowles
follows this practice/performance principle. Although she is extremely
successful as an artist and is financially rewarded ($87M in one year),
she is humble about her achievements and was quoted, “Like everyone
else, you work really hard and you want it to be great; you want your
friends to like it. What makes me comfortable is practice and knowing
that I’m prepared.”
Now, you may be thinking, 10,000 hours is a LOT of time! And, yes it is
. . . but 10,000 hours would go by whether you practice to achieve your
goals or not. Right?
- So, why not make a list of people who you WANT to know or
meet and then, schedule a short meeting or conversation with them?
Did you know … your greatest level of performance results from
mentoring? So, take a few minutes right NOW and list 20 people
who you want to meet or people who you want to ask about their path to
Many leaders feel so busy that they don’t take the time to seek out a
mentor. But, is it also related to your not knowing . . . not knowing
what to ask an ‘informal’ mentor?
Let’s start with a basic question. What do you think is the most
frequently asked question that compels someone to be your mentor?
Is it “Will you be my mentor?” Not any more than you would
ask someone to marry you on your first (or second date…) date. And keep
Start with a request, “May I ask you a question?”
Of course, before you meet with the ‘informal mentor’, outline a few
thoughts about what you most admire about them and questions about
what you want to learn from their experience.
Then, throughout your conversation, you can easily interject these
questions into your conversation. Most of them would start with, “How do
you do [what you want to know]?"
How will you know if it’s appropriate to continue your ‘informal
mentoring’ relationship? Take your clues from the mentor … Do they
offer you suggestions? Do they open the door for future conversations?
Do they refer or personally introduce you to someone who would also
provide you with some keen insights?
This is the type of leader with whom you want to continue building a
Now, is a mentoring relationship only meant for a certain level of
leadership? Here are a few examples of people who have excelled because
of their mentors … Warren Buffet, Mark Victor Hansen, Oprah Winfrey.
Join the ranks of some of the most celebrated and wealthy people in the
- Who will you call in the next week to schedule an ‘informal
I’d love to hear your thoughts on this subject … drop me an email at
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You, Inc.: The Art of Selling Yourself.
Author: Harry Beckwith and Christine Clifford
Beckwith. Publisher: Warner Business Books, 2007
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Unique Genius™ Coaching
Coaching is a confidential partnership between you, the
Client, and your Coach to help you achieve your next level of success faster
and with greater focus and clarity.
Gerrie Dresser is an ICF credentialed Professional Certified Coach (PCC) and
practical, innovative executive / career coach, thought leader, and personal
brand strategist. She delivers high impact individual and team coaching
through the Unique Genius™ Coaching Model.
As a result, her clients get UNSTUCK and . . .
- Articulate their value with confidence and
- Get known as a credible expert.
- Navigate the corporate landscape with more savvy.
- Negotiate new opportunities.
- Leverage today’s successes for longer range strategic
Do you have a memorable and distinctive brand story . .
. advocates who know you and what you do well . . . a Plan B for sustainable
If not, contact Gerrie for your 20 minute Unique Genius Strategy Session
For more information about Gerrie:
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